Baie geluk!

Iemand het die Powerball gewen … en dit was nie menz nie.

Baie fokken geluk!

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Soms …

… weet menz nie of dit so ‘n goeie ding is om baie te weet nie. Eers het menz gedink dat mense wat nie nuus kyk of koerant lees nie, kop in die sand druk soos volstruise. Dat mens moet weet wat aangaan, dis belangrik. Mens moet mos weet!

Dan FB menz en raak vreeslik hartseer:

Dan weet menz nie meer nie. Is dit dalk beter om nie soveel te sien en te hoor nie? Om nie te weet hoe wreed mense kan wees nie? Dat daar eintlik geen perke is aan die mens se wreedheid nie.

Dat diep binne-in ons eintlik maar net almal klein verwarde kindertjies is wat net liefde soek, maar te stubborn is om dit te erken?

Menz weet nie meer nie. Weet of nie weet nie, dit is die vraag …

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Hoe om enige siekte te oorkom:

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7 x 4

Dis hoe lank ons al saam is: menz en menzseMan. 14 jaar saam en vandag 14 jaar getroud. 28 jaar se sakke sout, krisisse, hartseer, histeries giggels, tantrums en snork-lagge, slapelose nagte, orgasmes, droogtes, reën en reënboë.

En as menz weer kon kies, sou menz dieselfde man kies. Miskien net ‘n plan met ‘n bietjie minder kak.

Happy anniversary menzseMan!

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Verbale mishandeling en angstigheid …

The Connection Between Verbal Abuse and Anxiety Everyone Ignores

There is a strong link between anxiety and long-term mental abuse. Chronic stress and trauma lead to various mental disorders, one of which is anxiety.  However, many people overlook the serious negative effects of mental abuse, but it is actually on the same level of harmfulness as physical abuse.   

People can suffer a lot due to being yelled at, insulted, and disrespected.  Scientists explain that cyberbullying and real-life verbal abuse are seriously dangerous, as they affect both hemispheres of the human brain, and lead to numerous health issues. 

According to Sherri Gordon, a published author, and a bullying prevention expert:

“Because verbal abuse isn’t as clear-cut as other forms of abuse and bullying, like physical bullying and sexual bullying, it can be hard to identify. But that doesn’t make it any less real.

Typically, verbal abuse involves some sort of verbal interaction that causes a person emotional harm. For instance, when someone is being downright critical, acting out in anger, and using words to try to control another person, this is verbal abuse.

This, in turn, leaves a victim questioning who they are. In fact, it is not uncommon for a victim of verbal abuse to feel inadequate, stupid, and worthless. After all, they are being defined by a verbally abusive person.

If verbal abuse occurs in a dating relationship, it can be particularly confusing because the partner is likely not abusive all the time. As a result, when the abuser is loving and gentle the victim can forget all the about the negative behavior.

Ultimately, the victim ends up ignoring the pattern of verbal abuse or makes excuses for the behavior saying things like he is just stressed out or he is going through a tough time right now.”

Verbal abuse can lead to the following:

Anxiety
Depression
Suicidal thoughts
PTSD
Chronic pain
Migraines
Eating disorders
Digestive issue
Short-Term Symptoms

Overthinking
Indecisiveness
Lack of enthusiasm and low self-esteem

Verbal abuse can be manifested through various kinds of behaviors, and the following can be clear signs of it:

1. Mood Killer

Abusers need to be in control of the situation, so they make you feel bad and spoil your good mood whenever possible since they feed when you are sad.

2. Name-Calling

Name-calling is a way to manipulate others and harm the victim.

3. Abusers Are Always Right

Abusers never apologize or enter a discussion about their behavior, as they believe they are never wrong.

4. Blame

Abusers blame other people for everything, in order to make them feel guilty and never good enough.

5. Jokes

If done without consent and permission of the other, joking can cause harm to the person affected.

6. Attack Interests

Abusers usually attack the hobbies, and interests of other people, making them feel worthless, and even end up lying.

7. Disrespect

Abusers usually disrespect others and do not appreciate anything other people do, making them feel useless and empty.

8. Behind Closed Doors

Abusers usually torment their victims behind closed doors, when no one can see them. Verbal abuse can happen at school, work, and at home, leading to severe trauma.

9. Isolation

Abused people often live isolated and avoid socializing, in order to protect themselves. They feel anxious when with other people since they lack self-confidence. In case you notice this, do your best to help this person.

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Eskom, die ANC en die mislikepaliteit …

Fok hulle almal. As die fokkers nie so steel en dodgy tenders aan hulle maatjies toe gestaan nie, sou ons nie in so ‘n gemors gewees het nie.

Ons krag is al van 05h00 vanmore af. Die standaard verskoning is dat dit ‘n 132kv trip is. Altyd. Miskien kom die krag vandag aan, anders more.

Die mislikepaliteit weet nie van die probleem nie, want hulle sms stelsel waarby jy jou probleem aanmeld, het nie krag nie. Dus geen verwysingsnommer nie.

Die raadslede vra vir verwysingsnommers sodat hulle kan eskaleer. Uhm, iemand is fokken stupid.

Daarby word stage 3 loadshedding aangekondig wat beteken ons het nie krag van 09h00 tot 11h30 af nie. Verskoon tog, maar ons het reeds nie krag van 05h00 nie. Dus spaar ons seker genoeg krag van 05h00 af om die geskeduleerde loadshedding vry te spring?

Ons het ‘n 2 plaat gasstoof maar dis so ‘n schlep om elke keer die ding in te dra en die gasbottel te koppel en ‘n pot op die stoof te sit vir koffie-water. Gisteraand se aandete was tuna mayo broodjies met koeldrank. Miskien moes ons wyn daarby gehad het.

Kan menz asseblief bedank as lid van hierdie banana republic (shithole country) en aansoek doen om asylum by enige land wat nie op die Afrika-vasteland is nie?

Foktog.

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Karma is ‘n bitch … of is dit?

12 Little Known Laws Of Karma That Will Change Your Life

1. The Great Law

“As you sow, so shall you reap.” Also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect.”
To receive happiness, peace, love, and friendship, one must BE happy, peaceful, loving, and a true friend.
Whatever one puts out into the Universe will come back to them.

2. The Law of Creation

Life requires our participation to happen. It does not happen by itself.
We are one with the Universe, both inside and out.
Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state.
Surround yourself with what you want to have in your life and be yourself.

3. The Law of Humility

One must accept something in order to change it.
If all one sees is an enemy or a negative character trait, then they are not and cannot be focused on a higher level of existence.

4. The Law of Growth

“Wherever you go, there you are.”
It is we who must change and not the people, places or things around us if we want to grow spiritually.
All we are given is ourselves. That is the only thing we have control over.
When we change who and what we are within our hearts, our lives follow suit and change too.

5. The Law of Responsibility

If there is something wrong in one’s life, there is something wrong in them.
We mirror what surrounds us, and what surrounds us mirrors us; this is a Universal Truth.
One must take responsibility for what is in one’s life.

6. The Law of Connection

The smallest or seemingly least important of things must be done because everything in the Universe is connected.
Each step leads to the next step, and so forth and so on.
Someone must do the initial work to get a job done.
Neither the first step nor the last are of greater significance. They are both needed to accomplish the task.
Past, Present, and Future are all connected.

7. The Law of Focus

One cannot think of two things at the same time.
If our focus is on Spiritual Values, it is not possible for us to have lower thoughts like greed or anger.

8. The Law of Giving and Hospitality

If one believes something to be true, then sometime in their life they will be called upon to demonstrate that truth.
Here is where one puts what they CLAIM to have learned into PRACTICE.

9. The Law of Here and Now

One cannot be in the here and now if they are looking backward to examine what was or forward to worry about the future.
Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, and old dreams prevent us from having new ones.

10. The Law of Change

History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.

11. The Law of Patience and Reward

All Rewards require initial toil.
Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil.
True joy comes from doing what one is supposed to be doing, and knowing that the reward will come in its own time.

12. The Law of Significance and Inspiration

One gets back from something whatever they put into it.
The true value of something is a direct result of the energy and intent that is put into it.
Every personal contribution is also a contribution to the Whole.
Lesser contributions have no impact on the Whole, nor do they work to diminish it.
Loving contributions bring life to and inspire the Whole.
Karma is a lifestyle that promotes positive thinking and actions. It also employs self-reflection to fix the problems in one’s life.

Karma gaan jou op een of ander stadium inhaal…

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Albert Einstein said that insanity …

… is doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

Six Things You Must Quit Doing Now To Be More Successful

• Quit doubting yourself.
  • Confidence plays a huge role in success. Hewlett-Packard conducted an interesting study whereby they analyzed the process through which people applied for promotions at the company. Women, it turned out, only applied when they met 100% of the criteria for the job they wanted, while men applied when they met 60% of the criteria. The researchers postulated that one of the (many) reasons men dominated the upper echelons of the company is that they were willing to try for more positions than females. Sometimes confidence is all it takes to reach that next level. The trick is, you have to believe it. If you doubt yourself, it won’t work. Faking confidence just doesn’t produce the same results.
• Quit putting things off.
  • Change is hard. Self-improvement is hard. Scrounging up the guts to go for what you want is hard, and so is the work to make it happen. When things are hard, it’s always easier to decide to tackle them tomorrow. The problem is that tomorrow never comes. Saying you’ll do it tomorrow is just an excuse, and it means that either you don’t really want to do it or that you want the results without the hard work that comes along with it.
• Quit thinking you have no choice.
  • There’s always a choice. Sure, sometimes it’s a choice between two things that seem equally bad, but there’s still a choice. Pretending that there isn’t one makes you a victim who is voluntarily taking on a mantle of helplessness. To play the victim, you have to give up your power, and you can’t put a price on that. To succeed at the highest level, you have to quit giving your power away.
• Quit doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
  • Albert Einstein said that insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Despite his popularity and cutting insight, there are a lot of people who seem determined that two plus two will eventually equal five. The fact is simple: if you keep the same approach, you’ll keep getting the same results, no matter how much you hope for the opposite. If you want different results, you need to change your approach, even when it’s painful to do so.
• Quit thinking everything is going to work out on its own.
  • It’s tempting to think that it’s all going to work out in the end, but the truth is that you have to make it work. This has many implications. Don’t expect your boss to notice when you’re ready for a promotion, don’t expect your colleague to stop sloughing work off on you if you’re always willing to do it, and don’t think that anyone is going to stop walking all over you as long as you allow it. Everything is not going to magically work out on its own; you have to be proactive and take responsibility for yourself.
• Quit saying “yes.”
  • Every “yes” you utter is a tradeoff. By saying “yes” to one thing, you’re saying “no” to something else. Saying “yes” to staying late at work, for example, might mean saying “no” to the gym or to time spent with your family. Research conducted at the University of California, San Francisco, showed that the more difficulty you have saying “no,” the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even depression. Saying “no” is indeed a major challenge for many people. No is a powerful word that you should not be afraid to wield. When it’s time to say “no,” avoid phrases such as I don’t think I can or I’m not certain. Saying “no” to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them. When you learn to say “no,” you free yourself from unnecessary constraints and free up your time and energy for the important things in life.

Hoekomdefok is mense so bang vir verandering? Hulle stop nie om eers daaroor te dink nie, hulle trap net vas soos steeks donkies. Hulle oorweeg nie eers die opsies nie…

Is ons so bang om uit te vind dat daar ‘n ander manier van dink of doen is as dit waaraan ons al die jare gewoond geraak het of geleer is om te doen?

Fokkit.

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Dis hartseer …

… dat soveel mense in ongelukkige huwelike vas gevang is. En nie die moed of die hart of die lus het om ‘n beter lewe te hê nie.

Menz het dele van hierdie post gelees:

Dis opmerklik uit die 636 kommentare (sommiges meer kommin as ander) hoe ongelukkig mense is. Maar ook hoe maklik dit is om daaroor te kla sonder om iets daaraan te doen.

As jy die keuse gemaak het om te IN, dan kan jy mos die keuse maak om te UIT, nie waar nie? Ook is daar drie kante aan elke storie: myne, joune en dit wat werklik gebeur het…

‘n Huwelik is harde werk. Dis nie 50% + 50% nie, dis 100% al die pad van beide kante af.

But there’s also no fun or use in flogging a dead horse.

Menz hoop van die mense wat daar geskryf het, het intussen vrede gekry. Alles het ‘n prys.

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Vra namens ‘n vriend …

Sou sy skeisaak nasty raak en sy familie gedreig word met onderhoudsbevelle en hy is in besit van grafiese materiaal waar sy vrou en sy beste vriend *kug* kamasutra moves uithaal, kan sy aandring op die helfte wanneer hy die video’s online laai en ‘n fooitjie daarvoor vra?

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